Does all the people who attend a funeral are really sad for the loss that particular person who is dead at that moment? May be! It mostly depends on the relationship between them. But majority of the people who visit the funeral will be those who might have not seen that person for many many years and appears at the funeral to give that person farewell, unless the person dead was young and his death was untimely. Some of them may even feel the genuine sadness about the demise. Some of them even miss the person at that moment in the funeral remembering the old memories with that person. But the people who miss that person most will be those who were with that person at the time of death or the small period of time before the death. They may be Family or Friends or both.
The worst part of the situation is that most of the visitors might not have been in touch with the dead person while the person was alive and well. And it doesn’t make much sense if you visit their home after the death. Because its simple, You cant talk to that person, you cant see that person anymore, you cant share your thoughts or have a laugh about something anymore. These can be done with a person who is ALIVE. If one is responsible enough to attend a funeral for a last glimpse, keeping in mind that if we attend the funeral it will be good to the soul of the person who is dead, WHAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE TO THAT PERSON WHEN THEY WERE ALIVE? We should have been in touch with them. That is what counts. No one knows what happens after death. No one alive can tell what happens after death and no one dead can tell you how it is to be dead. So it is quite useless to help a person after their death rather than helping them when they were breathing. Yes people do believe in sending the soul of the dead person to a better place but it is useless when nothing was done to make the person’s life a better one when they were alive.
After one of my friend was dead, i found many of his so called friends writing on his Facebook wall, that “THEY LOVE HIM, AND THEY WILL MISS HIM”. What the hell does that even mean. The person is dead. He will not be able to read it. You should have done this when he was alive. This doesn’t show anything other than your unnecessary acknowledgement to his death for the sake of society. If he knew that there were so many people who like him he might have been more happy when he was alive.
A chicken may be valuable when it is dead but a person is only valuable when he is ALIVE. So make use of the time you have and keep in touch with all those persons who made your life more Valuable or Exciting. It is being human if we miss someone and let their death affect your life in anyway. After sometime it will be the good times that you will cherish and the lessons that you might have learned from their lives that will remain with you for the rest of your life.
